Why Snarky Bloggers?
Because it’s the place for those of us that are opinionated, unpc and unashamed of it.
Are you tired of trying to make your blog look like everyone else? Hell, are you tired of TRYING to blog?
Forcing your writing will never work. If you are holding yourself back, people will see right through it. Speak your truth and people will follow you. They will find that honesty refreshing. If they don’t, well those weren’t the people you wanted as followers anyway right?
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Some about me
Hey! I’m Val Selby and I’ve been online since 2000. My oldest active blog was started in 2004. BusyMomma.com has gone through many changes since then. Every time I tried to find myself, so did the site. It’s truly a personal blog. It’s grown with me and continues to grow with me.
I’ve been lost many years in there. Following great coaches, but not feeling a perfect connection. Following great coaches and doing what they say, but failing because it wasn’t for me.
Focus did make a difference. Giving up the idea that I had to be the best at everything AND hold a full time job out of the house opened up all aspects of business. I just can’t and I don’t want to be the best housekeeper, the best Momma, the best wife, the most athletic, the best employee and then also an amazing business owner. Some of my idea of what things should be had to be scaled down so I could be better at others. Now that lifetime of coaching, leading and the degree in personal training (goal setting and follow through) are pushed online to help others. Whether it be with your business, setting up that first blog or just being the best you can be.
But, what was the biggest thing that opened up my blogging?
Not fighting my personality. There is only one me and I had to stop fighting it.
All these years I’ve been trying to keep everything PC and write for everyone. No swearing, talk about the latest topics that are trending, don’t sound negative no matter what’s happening and by all means keep that smile on your face like you are making millions even if you aren’t. Fuck that. I’m over it. This is me and it’s all I know how to be.
Being PC wasn’t working. While I don’t go for shock value, I do try to blog like I’m talking to you. Like we just poured our second glass of wine and are about to get obnoxious and tell secrets.
Editing became a huge task when I wasn’t being myself in my writing. I’d write, then edit and edit and edit and edit… It got to the point I wasn’t writing because it was just too much work to try. It was work and wasn’t fun anymore. Then I’d read the edited post and hell, I wouldn’t read it. BORING!
If you look around online, you’ll quickly figure out that I may not do things “correctly”. It might not be the way that 500 other sites will tell you to do it. I think that’s why you are here. If what everyone else told you to do was working…you wouldn’t still be searching for some answers.
More specifically about me. I’m 43 and not a bit ashamed to say it. I’ve been married for 21 years to my incredibly patient high school sweetheart. My kids are old. Oldest is 20 and away at college in her first apartment. The youngest graduates this year. Looking back over the years online it’s just amazing to think of where I started. Where the internet started. And where my family is now.
I’m honest and for some that is an instant turnoff. That’s ok. It means we aren’t a fit and I’m ok with that.
If you want it you can get it. But you have to put the work in and stay focused on who you are.
